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We are very finical in choosing our Godparents. Most of them are very young ( they almost didn't want to be called Ninangs and Ninongs LOL) but we wanted wonderful people who will be able to guide us properly in our marriage thus we need men and women of character and good values.:) 

So here goes our second mommies and daddies ^_^

ALVIN AND SWEET'S ENTOURAGE

OUR AWESOME ENTOURAGE, THANK YOU GUYS!

MAP OF CHURCH AND RECEPTION

WHERE IN THE WORLD IS OUR VENUE?

(Pardon for the watermarks, have to protect the image)

WHAT TO WEAR ON MAY 11, 2012?

WHAT TO WEAR ON OUR WEDDING DAY :

We want you to be very comfortable on our wedding party but of course you can't come in your pajamas LOL so here's what we imagined you will be wearing!

Our theme is whimsical vintage ( think of carnivals, feasts, fun fairs, The Notebook movie and the likes)  with a touch of romantic fun and pastel colors. So here are few guidelines to help you out. ( You may click on highlighted words to direct you to pictures that kinda describe what we mean)

GORGEOUS WOMEN :
1. Party with us in your beautiful PASTEL cocktail dress
2. We beg you not to wear black, glittery or animal ( zebra, lion, panther, snake, cow etc) print dresses
3. You can wear your wedge shoes! Doesn't match your lovely dress? Just  make sure to bring extra flats ( so we can dance) if you will be in your stilettos :)
4.Accessorize!

HANDSOME MEN :
1. Wear a light colored polo matched with a dress pants
2. Neckties, bowties, suspenders would be nice *unleash the metro sexuality in you*
3. We beg you not to wear DENIM, or BARONG.

Please click here to refresh you with our wedding colors : MOODBOARD

AND FINALLY BELOW IS A PORTION OF OUR INVITATION SHOWING WHAT ATTIRE TO WEAR :) Invitation was hand-painted with love by Abba Mendoza of The Goldfish Pool. Hire her, she's awesome!

( I HOPE YOU ALREADY SENT YOUR R.S.V.P)

Lotsa Lovin,
Alvin and Sweet

FINAL INVITATION FROM TEAM A&S

ABBA is TALENTED! I love her to the bones :) Here goes our final invitation. We will be printing out the hard copy very very soon! :D

FRONT (double click the enlarge)

Abba is an uber- talented individual who draws/sketch/ "however-you-wanna-call-an-awesome-artist". When I found her on the www universe, I instantly knew that she will be designing our invitation! True enough, every penny is worth it. She delivered!

Just a bit of backgrounder about the invitation :

We officially became a couple on the day we went to the 16th Hot Air Balloon in Clark, Pampanga. Whenever I see Hot Air Balloons, I think of long distance relationship and perhaps this is what sprouted on Abba's mind. We met Abba in Gateway last December 2011 and told her of our whirlwind love story. I was so amazed that she thought of the idea of including a hot air balloon in a very creative manner.

One thing is for sure, I want it 3-folds and very fun, chic and light. ( Im excited to post the actual photo of the invitation)

The coral pink rope we are holding signifies our bond even if we are miles apart. The front cover is the skyline of Vancouver and the back cover is the skyline of Manila ( particularly the Manilca City Hall - since it's the best symbol for our capital so far)Ohh and I love the maple leaves ( again signifying Canada)

The buntings, ever present even in our wedding reception depicts the colorful journey we will fondly call forever :)

The map is very simple, easy to understand and cute ^_^. I am also very particular to the attire that our family and friends will be wearing, ( argh, no glittery dresses and denims for example) and I was so happy that Abba was able to draw the perfect picture based from my instructions.

We are still thinking of putting an RSVP sheet, for now we await the final invitation ( on print)

To learn more about Abba Mendoza's work, check this out : Abbaness

double click to enlarge

XOXO,
Alvin and Sweet

WHAT'S HOT AND WHAT'S NOT IN WEDDINGS

what's HOT & what's NOT in Weddings

Q&A for Wedding Guests

Q&As for Wedding Guests
by: John & Benz Rana
Weddings At Work

If it's your first time attending a wedding, what follows is a simple guide of Dos & Don'ts to get through such a social event. Note that we made these questions up so allow us to be sarcastic and blunt with some of our responses to ourselves.

I got an invite but have no plans attending..
If you won't be able to attend for whatever reason, please RSVP. A big chunk of the wedding budget goes to the reception and it will be utterly inconsiderate to just give up a reserved seat without letting the couple know. Give them the chance to assign that seat to another guest in their "waitlist".

The envelope bears only my name. May I ask if I can bring a date?
Don't bring a date unless your invitation specifically says "and Guest." Bringing unexpected guests is very impolite. Neither should you ask the couple's permission if you may bring one or not. Don't put your friends on the spot. We Filipinos don't really like turning down people. So how would you know if their "Yes" means yes or not? Spare them that trouble.

The invite says "Mr. & Mrs." Could we bring our kids?
Never bring the kids unless "& Family" is indicated. Soon-to-weds don't usually invite children for a good reason. Kids get bored or cranky during hour-long masses. Their tantrums might disrupt the solemnity of the ceremony. Weddings are usually formal events typically not appropriate for the little ones. To be blunt about it, inviting a child at the reception means added two mouths to feed - the kid's and the yaya's.

I don't have a clue what gift to give them. Any ideas?
The average Pinoy soon-to-wed would always prefer monetary gifts more than any other gift. It is the unspoken fact. We're telling you now to make it easier for them to let you know what they REALLY want; unless they indicated that already in their invites which, by the way, is a very tacky thing to do.
If you're not comfortable giving cash, you may ask the couple where they are registered (Gift / Bridal Registry) and choose from what's listed under their names in the store. You can also ask them where they're residing after the wedding and take the cue from there. If you know that they'll be migrating abroad or living with their parents for the time being, a ref or another oven toaster may not be the most practical and logical gift.

Could I skip the ceremony and head straight to the reception?
You can. BUT you shouldn't! You are invited to THE wedding -- that's the part where they exchange their "I dos." The reception is where the Receiving Line is. You can't be 'received' if you are already seated in the hall, right? "Patay-gutom" is too harsh a word and we assure you that it's by no means what anyone would think if indeed you decide to go straight to the reception. But admit that it struck a nerve just mentioning the word in that context, isn't it?

Speaking of the Receiving Line, what should be the proper greeting?
Here's the rule: Say "Congratulations" to the groom and "Best Wishes" to the bride. The reason behind is that "congrats" implies that someone has caught something or won a prize, and it is rather improper to imply that the bride "caught" the man who married her. If this rule gets mixed-up in your head come wedding day, just say the two phrases together and look at both of them. That usually works!
Likewise, saying "Good Luck!" no matter how pure your wishes are will also sound very inappropriate for obvious reasons.

Nice try, but what if the couple makes a Grand Entrance and left the Receiving Line to their parents? What then should I tell them? Note that I don't even know which sets of parents are whose.
Did we tell you already not to skip the ceremony? The bride and groom usually walk alongside their respective parents at the very start!
Anyway, make your pleasantries short and sweet. Shake their hands and say "Hello! I'm (your name) and I went to school with (name of bride/groom) in (school's name)/an officemate of (name of bride/groom) at (name of company)." They usually respond with "Nice meeting you." Just smile, nod politely, and move on to the next person. If one replies "Hi! I've heard so much about you!", simply smile and nod just the same. No lengthy conversation; just make small talk at most. If you can't find the words to say, just smile again, nod politely, and move

During the banquet, is there anything I need to know?
Nowadays, the Reception Program usually have the guests on each table stand up and have their picture taken with the couple before being led to the buffet. This is done to resolve two issues of past weddings: (a) for the couple's convenience and skip the tiring Table-Hopping ritual just to have their picture taken with all their guests; and (b) for the guests' convenience so they won't have to wait very long for their
turn in the buffet line.

Keep in mind that Buffet is NOT synonymous with "Eat-All-You-Can." Do not pile your plate full. Be courteous of those who have yet to be served. Don't worry. You can easily go for seconds.



Manners are one of the things we take for granted, but which we notice the absence of. Consider this: do you think "Do unto others as you want others to do unto you" is limited to the concept of sin? If so then manners represent an area where we sin against each other on a daily basis, and when the sin is committed at someone else’s wedding, it’s hard to make penance. A lack of basic manners shows a lack of moral fiber, because you can’t be bothered to behave well towards others. Worse, if you don’t know that you are offending others, then you’re committing the worst sin of all: ignorance. (Are you hearing your lola now? Good!)

And now that that lecture is out of the way, let’s fight ignorance by discussing what are the worst social sins you can commit at a wedding.

• When you receive the invitation, immediately RSVP
(if you don’t know what RSVP is, it comes from a French term, "respondez s’il vous plait", which roughly translates into "Please respond to let us know whether you will attend"). Donna Pilato of About.com explains, "If R.S.V.P. is written on an invitation it means the invited guest must tell the host whether or not they plan to attend the party. It does not mean to respond only if you’re coming, and it does not mean respond only if you’re not coming (the expression "regrets only" is reserved for that instance). It means the host needs a definite head count for the planned event, and needs it by the date specified on the invitation."
Pinoys are notorious for not RSVPing, and when they travel or migrate to other parts of the world, are confused when foreign hosts are infuriated by them showing up without RSVPing. Wedding guests should never assume they’re so important that a) their attendance can be taken for granted, or b) they can ignore the invitation and show up if and when they feel like it. Couples have enough stress planning for weddings; guests shouldn’t contribute to this stress by not RSVPing, thus causing the couple to agonize over whether to count you in or not. Think of it this way: RSVPing is a small gift to a couple, because it helps them with their preparations. Since it’s their special day, don’t they deserve more consideration than you, the guest?

• When you RSVP, pay attention to whom the invitation is addressed—whether it’s for you (and no one else), to you and your partner, or to you, your partner and your children. Make sure about this! Pinoys have the appalling habit of thinking that if one person in a family is invited, everyone is. Perhaps that’s true in the countryside (where big weddings are de rigeur), but never assume that of any couple, especially in Manila . If a guest brings everyone in his or her family to a wedding, what happens to the couple’s budget? Just because guests give the couple a present doesn’t mean they have the right to make the couple "pay" for it by bringing a truckload of relatives and friends with them. What this behavior
says to the couple is that the guest doesn’t care about their feelings…so they shouldn’t be surprised when they’re never invited again to the couple’s succeeding events.

• Dress appropriately. If the couple invites you to a theme wedding and you don’t want to appear in costume, either turn the invitation down gently or explain your objections before you show up at their medieval-inspired wedding dressed in a casual outfit. Also, a wedding is not a place to show skin. No guest has the right to upstage the bride (enough said), and if a guest can’t understand the reason for this, then perhaps s/he should never be invited to weddings.

• If you’re allowed to bring your kids to the wedding and they aren’t part of the bridal entourage, keep them under control! A wedding is a celebration of a new life together, not of your children. Too many Pinoys think that having children entitles them to free babysitting services from all and sundry. People who expect other guests to take care of their children are boors; what gives them the right to assume that everyone will be delighted to take care of their misbehaving offspring? This is especially crucial in the church; if a guest loves God, then s/he will not allow their kids to ruin the solemnity of the ritual with their antics. Misbehaving children should be taken out of the church immediately, or left at home altogether.

• Don’t stage your own dramatic scene at the wedding or the reception, even if you see your ex (in the arms of the person who stole her or him away from you) or people you detest (enough to start World War III with). If you don’t know why you shouldn’t do this, then you don’t deserve your invitation!

• The worst thing a guest can do is to skip the ceremony and beat the couple to the reception area! This action tells them, "I don’t really care about you; I’m here for the food." In addition to being insufferably rude, the ceremony is the most important part of the wedding so if a guest really cares about the couple, why miss it?
• A reception is not a place to sell life insurance policies, make-up, or anything else. Regardless of what some disreputable marketing agencies tell you, a wedding is not composed of many sale prospects; it’s made up of people who have the right not to be molested by sales talk at a beautiful celebration. Don’t put the couple on the spot either by asking them if you can leave company brochures at the reception tables. Wedding suppliers are discreet about this, and you should be, too.

• If the reception includes speeches, please don’t talk to your seatmates or on your cell phone while a speech is in progress. Boring or maudlin as they may sometimes be, these speeches mean a lot to the couple, and the least you can do is to listen.

• If you’re invited to the bouquet or garter toss, just stand up and go where the couple asks you to go. Just indulge the couple, and try not to hurt anyone else standing near you when jockeying for the bouquet. Don’t be the type of female guest who wastes the couple’s time by acting cute and pretending not to want the bouquet (then elbowing everyone out of the way when the flowers are tossed).
• If the reception features a buffet, don’t pile your plate then leave behind what you don’t like. Take only a little at a time; there’s no need to hoard food as you can always come back for more. If it’s a sit-down meal, don’t badger the waiters for extra servings. The reception isn’t about your stomach, so wait a bit then stop by a fast food shop on the way home.

• Speaking of receptions, unless the couple invites you to do so, do NOT ask for "take home" food,even if there are a lot of leftovers. You’re the guest, sure, but it’s the couple that matters most on this day. Tired of hearing me say that? That’s because it’s true, so get over yourself and show some consideration!

• When you leave the reception (especially if you have to leave early), be sure to personally thank the bride and the groom before leaving. Ninety percent of all guests forget this little token of good manners, and yet it’s the gesture couples appreciate the most.

• And the tackiest thing to avoid? No matter how horrible the celebration turned out for you, you have no right to badmouth the wedding. Shut up! The couple will probably already be upset about the bad food or the leaky venue; don’t add to their misery by e-mailing everyone on your list about what cheap hosts they were. Lola always said, "If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all!" And
this certainly applies to a wedding.

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